Talk:Disney Create/@comment-5314597-20130802061226/@comment-12800067-20130802073755

arguments can sometimes get so big and dense and complicated that it's hard to tell what the point of the argument was anymore. it just turns into retaliating against whatever the last comment was, and it gets really horrible and a lot of the time everyone ends up feeling hurt and attacked.

i feel like the only thing you can do whenever it comes to something like that, is to make sure that apologies go all around, no matter what, and make sure you're being as reasonable and calm as possible when you're talking to somebody (and that applies to everyone. people are sensitive about different things on different levels and something you said that may not effect you, may upset them. everyone has to be careful).

the above is certainly not an accusation, a scolding, or mean words of any kind for anyone here. they're just advice that everyone can take to avoid arguments in the future.

and for mjay in particular: you are a person who possesses immense strength of will; please don't cry! those tears don't deserve you. it's gonna sound ridiculous - what i say usually ends up coming out really generic and dr. phil - but i promise that you are a strong person and that you, just as everyone else here, can rise above those problems and work it out. sometimes it takes a little while or a long time.

on occasion, you might feel pretty lost. things happen - for example, a long-standing uneasiness between two people wherein both of them make each other feel hurt -  and i expect you to not always be able to keep everything in check - we're all just human. but as I said before, you've got the power to work with others and control the little demons that can sometimes get to you. and you're strong enough to keep 'em down! <3

-you can message me if you ever have any problems.